I don’t know if this is the right place to post this but here goes. I am so frustrated and anxious.
My husband and I are very much in love. I am on a student visa in his country but we are working toward him getting to move back to the states with me soon on a marriage visa.
My husband’s horrid parents (with whom we have been living during the pandemic) recently kicked us out on the street. They literally told us to go check into a homeless shelter. Fortunately, we were able to book an room for a week with some of our savings.
After that ended, as a student I was able to get a dorm room for cheap, since there aren’t many students in dorms right now. Husband is staying in the room with me whenever he can, he is allowed to stay a limited number of nights per week, and otherwise he stays in a hotel nearby. We are okay here, although the building is mostly empty and the lock on the door to the building doesn’t work (our room does lock), and the hot water has been off and on, but the alternative is living out of the car (which we have borrowed from family members who might demand it back anytime) so we are staying here as long as possible.
Unfortunately, when my student visa ends I have to go back home, so I am leaving him soon to go back and live with my parents. I could technically stay for a while longer but it increases our expenses a lot. We will be able to save so much money if I go home and start working again.
My husband has been patiently waiting for his visa so he can come live in the states with me and get away from his nightmare of a family. He will be housed there, and we will be together permanently. He even has connections and job prospects there. But this could be months away.
I’m so worried for him. Currently we have booked him an Airbnb for 1 month after I’ve gone home. The prices for Airbnb’s are extortionate in his country, so it’s unsustainable. He can’t commit to a lease because we don’t know how long he will be staying.
I am NOT going to let my husband live on the street. He has been through enough during this pandemic, his own family has kicked him out, he is unemployed, and now we have to do long-distance for god knows how long. There must be a solution. We can’t afford much but I won’t see him on the street, unlike his family I actually give a shit about his health and safety. (None of his family members who are willing to take him in, they all had bullshit reasons but I know the real reason is that his mom has poisoned them all against us. They’re so petty and childish, and so short sighted that they can’t even see the damage they have done.)
Our case is with the NVC right now, I have submitted an expedite request to the NVC explaining our situation. Our lawyer says that we probably won’t get expedited, as she has seen much worse humanitarian issues not get expedited.
We already were stressed out. We’ve been waiting over a year, which I know isn’t THAT long compared to some cases but the pandemic and his family have made it much harder.... This situation has caused us so much stress, I am too young to be getting gray hairs but they’re starting to come in, and I have barely slept. I need this to be over, for him to be with me, in the states, with housing and with my family who actually care about us. I love him so much and all I want is a stable life with him. I can’t understand why we should have to be apart and he should be at risk of homelessness when we have a safe place to live in the states.
Sorry for the rant but I had to get it off my chest and I am hoping that somebody will have some advice or wise words for us.
TL;DR: Husband and I got kicked out by in-laws while waiting for his US visa, & now I have to go back to US while he might become homeless.
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