It's really long story，I really feel if I keep staying with him in the marriage that I will get mental issues. One year ago，I didn't have EAD either GC，I didn't work( I used to want to work and get cash，but he didn't allow me to do it and I didn't have a DL) so I was the only one who was spending money and not making money. I used to spend less than 200 dollars per month for myself，even as a military spouse，I get 300 dollars from the military) Once a day，the Valentines Day was coming，so I came up an idea，I wanted to spend 5 dollars to buy a shiny cup for my mother in law. When my husband saw the cup，it costed 5 dollars，he was freaking out in the car，he punched the steering wheel and said：why do you always spend so much money？I was shocked and got off the car，kept crying in the parking lot）then he hugged me and apologized to me. We returned the cup after that. I thought everything is fine，everything is over. Until recently，he came back from TDY，so We are staying together. He literally being so picky about everything I did. He asked me to see the house information with him last night，( We were trying to buy a house)when I close to him，he get upset，he said I was being too close. Especially，he want to buy the house less than 1000 ft and cost 210K dollars，he said that he wanted to pay 15 years mortgage. But I said that I don't like this house. he said: unless you ask your parents give money for us to buy a nice house. I was shocked：I said are you asking my parents to give money for us to buy a house？ ( He knew my parents are pretty rich in my country） but he declined the request after I asked him to confirm it. Last Saturday，When We done grocery shopping，I asked can I see the receipt？he said no. So I didn't ask anymore and wait for him to finish. Then he kept saying: hold on ，hold on. I literally waited and didn't do anything when he was reading the receipt. Before We got the second used car，he literally said no jobs no cars. In that time，he didn't allow me to drive his car. And he was going to TDY，I literally can't get out the apartment when I didn't have a car. And I am driving his car now，because he got a more fancy car for himself. And I began to work now，I thought everything will be fine after we separated a little while and not so tight in finance part. So from those experience，I just think every couple does that，so I didn't think it's a big problem. Especially，I want to work on our marriage，I don't want to divorce at all. It is pretty shameful and getting lots of stress in my country if a woman who divorced. I literally don't want to be the person who is being judged by people. I really don't want to divorce. So if I divorce that I don't want to come back to my country and get judged by people. Today，I ran a red light，I totally out of control. I know it's going to cost 110 dollars for paying the bill，it's not causing my car insurance fee goes up，not lose points. I live in MD. But I feel my day and my life is over！！！I just kept thinking about the 5 dollars cup and how mad he was，I get headache and I think he will be freak out and get mad at me. How cold he was when I bumped my toe very badly last night，he didn't care at all，he said the toe isn't falling off，you are fine. Last week，when I walked to crosse the road at green light，someone who was driving a car from another direction，he ran the red light and speed up try to crash me，but the driver honked before he really crash on me，I was shocked. After I said this to my husband，he said：stop doing that，you need to wait. But I already waited for the green light and I almost finished the walking. Today，I ran red light，I just think he will sigh and criticize me. Maybe he will ask me to stop driving. I just couldn't image how frustrated I am！ So I really think that I need to get out the marriage，I don't want to live a life like that.
Actually，it's my second time to run the red light，I'm a terrible driver，I know. But the first time when I ran the red light，I was not so frustrating and panic，compared with that experience，I know how frustrated I am now，so I think that I am getting sick. I really need to get out from my marriage. I didn't marry him for GC either. When We were dating，he was so nice to me，he give up his Top security clearance job for marrying me. I really appreciate the sacrifice he made，I do feel guilty about it too. I want to do my best to make him happy and not feel frustrated. But I think I couldn't do it.
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